On the streets love is hard to see
It's a place I got to be
Loving you is loving me
How beautiful love can be
On the streets love is hard to see
Gotta reach that frequency
Loving you is loving me
- Common on "Love is....."
Over the past couple of months, I keep bumping into an old friend, Richard from back in the Primary School era. Way back in the day. We started reminincing about what people were up to now and just straight catching up. Richard is one of the dudes that if you saw him you think he was some hard ass mutha. Dressed in his beanie and hoodie every morning, with the "I don't give a ...." tude., he's a guy that most people from school just simply avoid. And it doesn't help that he just ignores everyone.
Anyways, the point of this is that we started talking about girlfriends and he was saying that "I'm too hard to have a girlfriend." I tried to explain to him what love is but its kinda difficult when -
a) your on a crowded peak hour train
b) a person refuses to listen
And no, I didn't use the "loving you is loving me" line from Common!. So until I bump into him again and explain it, here is my explanation of love from a boyfriend/girlfriend perspective. Having been in a relationship for nearly 4.5 years, I think I have some idea or at least should.
Love is waking up in the morning knowing that there is someone else out there that loves you.
Love is arguing with someone until your blue in the face, conceding but still believing that your right.
Love is knowing everything about that other person, including their deepest and darkest secrets, their fears and what upsets them the most.
Its about doing things for someone, without any rational reason and giving up something that you treasure for that other person.
Its deciding to miss that interview because your sick and needed to be taken home. And then somehow manging to turn up slightly late.
It's about driving 1 hour to some remote location to take you home.
Love is having someone that is like your best friend, someone that you want to be around 24/7.
It's having someone that buys you random presents when you prolly don't deserve it having missed their own birthday.
It's about being able to simply be yourself around that person.
There is no real definition about love is. I've tried to describe it but it's very hard in words. Even harder if your a man that chooses to be "hard" like Richard. Sometimes you just need to open up or that right person might come along and make you realise how beautiful love can be.
As men we were taught to hold it in
That's why we don't know how 'til we're older men
If love is a place I'ma go again
At least now, now I know to go within
At time it can take ya for a spin
Heartbreak hotel then you're home again
5 comments:
And then there's common law marriage, where you live your life like Al Bundy.
who woulda thought dj ho was so soppy! am just teasing u!
sheena: i was just showing you that I can mix it up - there is a softer side to DJ Ho :P
And KG, Al Bundy had it good - except for that annoying wife.
HOw did Al Bundy have it good??? The man sold womens shoes to fat women for minimum wage, had a shit car, a greedy nagging wife that he could hardly stand the sight of, a hot Ho of a daughter who was dummer than the family dog, a smart, ugly son who could never get any, and an annoying bitch of a neighbour with "the body fo a 10 year old boy". His only joy in life came at the nudie bar, in the bathroom reading the lastest issue of "Big'Uns", or sitting in the middle of the couch in fromt of the tv, legs apart, one hand on the remote, the other down the front of his pants.
hahaha - oh that's right, thanks for reminding me. I think you forgot about his loser friends as well.
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